Dating A Younger Guy You may be smitten with that younger guy for a number of reasons—his chiseled abs and the fact he makes you feel like Mrs. But according to some collegiettes, your conversations with a younger beau may feel a little off at times.
“While I like to have fun, I also like serious conversation every once in a while,” says Rachel*, a college graduate who dated a 19 year-old during her mid-twenties.
One open-ended question goes further than 100 closed ones. Once you show you’re on her side, she’ll be more open to your questions.
Find out what activities he’s involved in and show a genuine interest in at least one. Find out what he’s proud of and what’s difficult for him. You probably won’t find much information on a college student, but you never know. Ask her about where she stands boundarywise and whether he’s pressured her in any way.
‘Enjo kosai’ (援助交際) is a form of compensated dating, which is also known as enko (援交).
This is a phenomenon that started around the 1990’s in Japan but has spread to other Asian countries such as Taiwan and South Korea.
It would be a mistake to order your daughter not to date him just because you think dating an older guy is “risky.” That choice would be like throwing away an apple because there MIGHT be a worm in it.
If your daughter talks to him on Facebook, casually look at his profile while she’s online. When she goes out with him on a date, find out the details of the plan. Frequent dialogue is important whether your daughter is dating someone her own age or someone older. A shared interest in her happiness will strengthen your relationship so that if and when she determines she is in over her head, she will come to you.
Wes: I have one simple rule on this subject: The older they are, the more perfect they have to be.
It may not seem like a huge age gap to some, but for someone who only recently went out in the world on her own, (aka college), it was a big difference. Maybe you are and maybe you aren't, that's up to you and your beliefs. There's no longer a need to keep your SO updated on every little move you make, keep them updated on when your class ends and who you're going to get coffee with later. A few texts a day is more than enough to let the other know they're on your mind. It's a difference that makes a hell of a difference. But God, is it nice to go out to a nice dinner with your guy just for the hell of it. You no longer have to sit and pretend you care about the kick ass party his frat through or how they're totally messing with their pledge class. They're interested or they aren't, but there will be no wondering.
But in so many cases, it seems like that's what college relationships are all about. Goodbye pointless conversations and emoji conversations. (Don't get me wrong: I love pizza and Netflix, but I also love a nice dinner and a glass of wine, k? Sleeping together literally means sleeping together. Crazy that a guy could lie in bed with a girl all night and not try to have sex, right? People get turned off by different things, my friends and I have a long list of shit we just can't deal with when it comes to guys. I decided to conduct a random survey as to what turns guys off.